Last updated on February 1, 2016
Sara Keen// Editor-in-Chief
People always make statements about embracing who you are. You have heard things such as “be who you are,” or “don’t let anyone tell you what you can or can’t be.”
But it seems that when one tries to do just that, they are only struck down by the very society that encouraged it. It is as if you can only be who you are if that matches society perfectly.
Even worse, you can only embrace the positive, “socially-acceptable” life experiences you have had. While we happily share grades, acceptance letters, and the happy sides of our past, we often hide the negative parts of our lives.
Why is it that society has forced us to feel so negatively about our own complex being, that we have to hide some of the most important events in our lives?
There is no shame in any incident that changed who you are or made you stronger. Whether it was surviving an illness or struggling with a mental illness, no person should have to feel ashamed that they have that hardship in their life. There is no shame in feeling at peace with your past because your past made you into who you are now.
It may be difficult to do, to say that you struggled with something awful or that you’re still struggling. I have struggled, and more than likely so have most of the people you would encounter every day.
Sure, it probably is not the brightest idea to proudly announce or display some hardships, but there is no need for shame.
There seems to be a stigma on fairly common events that impact lives. Mental illnesses, miscarriages, abuse, racism, and even sexism have been stigmatized as things we should not discuss. That is not at all the case.
For a society to grow, that society must understand the problems it faces. People cannot continue their lives hiding the awful things in life. If a person keeps too much to himself or herself, then that person is likely to crack under the pressure.
We are not immune to pain, disgust, tragedy, or illness. We are humans, considered the most intelligent species on Earth.
That intelligence allows us to push ourselves further into advancement. That intelligence also causes us to think more about the world and the events that take place.
We are also compassionate and empathetic. We can understand the feelings and emotions of others. There should be no shame in embracing our experiences.
The human experience may be the only one we get, so do not feel ashamed of yours.